Through their own therapy, training, and years of working with couples, therapists Donna Baker-Gilroy, Psy.D., LPC, and her husband David Gilroy, Psy.D., LPC have discovered, and are now sharing the key elements that make transforming relationships possible.
“We all want to feel loved, understood and safe and we have also learned that when anger and blame are the predominant modes of communication, a relationship is doomed to fail,” said Donna Baker-Gilroy. “Couples become more and more entrenched in proving “I’m right, therefore you are wrong. In this belief system there is no safe place to exist. Understanding, love and safety become impossible dreams.” That, in essence, is at the center of “Transforming Relationships: Come As You Are,” co-authored by David and Donna who, as partners at the Hartford Family Institute’s Center For Healing Arts in West Hartford, provide therapy and workshops for couples in conflict.
“Transforming Relationships” provides serves as a guide for couples to map the path from conflict to peace and helps answer the question, “Why should we try to work it out?”